Comments on: E-mail and Conflict http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict the home of Nathan Colquhoun Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:53:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rob http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1137 Rob Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1137 We just can't stand the sharp quick pain involved in face to face conflict resolution. We seem to prefer the long drawn out torture of puting it off or dealing with it by email or asking someone to tell someone something and waiting for the reply.<br /> I prefer to deal with it up front but I had to learn that the hard way. We just can’t stand the sharp quick pain involved in face to face conflict resolution. We seem to prefer the long drawn out torture of puting it off or dealing with it by email or asking someone to tell someone something and waiting for the reply.
I prefer to deal with it up front but I had to learn that the hard way.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1138 Rachel Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1138 Good thoughts Nate, I guess next time I'm mad I won't email you. :) I'll scream in your face :) And I think it was Stanford, but I could be wrong. Good thoughts Nate, I guess next time I’m mad I won’t email you. :) I’ll scream in your face :) And I think it was Stanford, but I could be wrong.

]]> By: Pernell http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1139 Pernell Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1139 I think you're a tool. I just sent you an e-mail about it. I think you’re a tool. I just sent you an e-mail about it.

]]> By: don http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1140 don Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1140 nathan ... good thinking ... a neighbouring church out here has been in some deep conflict for 6 months now ... an elder was away for a month, and came home to 400 angry, nasty e-mails. that's 100 a month, 25 a week, almost 4 a day! and this is a church of 250 people. almost none of it was in any way productive. my new year's resolution, while sitting on the beach at Tofino in July, was to resist my cop out tendency to e-mail people instead of calling them, going out for coffee with them, just talking to them.<br /> <br /> Dan Allender has a great quote on e-mail in his recent book "Leading with a Limp" ... 'e-mail is the scourge of modern communication. It facilitates the passing on of simple information, yet it forces complex matters to be presented in a fashion that makes what is difficult appear easy, and, in many cases, what is peripheral seem central. E-mail distorts. It allows thoughtful and reasonable communication to appear deranged and fury laden. And, if you read your e-mail with only half your synapses firing, you are doomed. Coffee helps, but e-mail still adds to the darkness of the looking glass. pg 77 chapter 6: The Problem of Complexity: all leaders see through a glass darkly. nathan … good thinking … a neighbouring church out here has been in some deep conflict for 6 months now … an elder was away for a month, and came home to 400 angry, nasty e-mails. that’s 100 a month, 25 a week, almost 4 a day! and this is a church of 250 people. almost none of it was in any way productive. my new year’s resolution, while sitting on the beach at Tofino in July, was to resist my cop out tendency to e-mail people instead of calling them, going out for coffee with them, just talking to them.

Dan Allender has a great quote on e-mail in his recent book “Leading with a Limp” … ‘e-mail is the scourge of modern communication. It facilitates the passing on of simple information, yet it forces complex matters to be presented in a fashion that makes what is difficult appear easy, and, in many cases, what is peripheral seem central. E-mail distorts. It allows thoughtful and reasonable communication to appear deranged and fury laden. And, if you read your e-mail with only half your synapses firing, you are doomed. Coffee helps, but e-mail still adds to the darkness of the looking glass. pg 77 chapter 6: The Problem of Complexity: all leaders see through a glass darkly.

]]> By: Ron Smith http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1141 Ron Smith Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1141 damn it, i dont have enough time to read everything and respond... in italy they need better conflict resolution to get me some high speed internet.... BAH. I cant upload anything.,.....<br /> Hope things are going well pal.... and I hope you havent rented out my room yet... (I'll be home soon). <br /> <br /> Talk to you soon.<br /> Cheers. damn it, i dont have enough time to read everything and respond… in italy they need better conflict resolution to get me some high speed internet…. BAH. I cant upload anything.,…..
Hope things are going well pal…. and I hope you havent rented out my room yet… (I’ll be home soon).

Talk to you soon.
Cheers.

]]> By: Nathan Colquhoun http://www.nathancolquhoun.com/2006/09/20/e-mail-and-conflict#comment-1142 Nathan Colquhoun Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 #comment-1142 Great quote Don, thanks for posting that!! Great quote Don, thanks for posting that!!

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